Thursday, February 7, 2008
Do you feel responsible for your teen's addiction
One of the most difficult scenarios for a parent is to face is the fact that they have a child who is an addict. I am no exception!
I have been through all of the blaming , the self destruction, the manipulation and the loneliness of a parent with an addict child. There have been many days when I would have traded my life, literally, to have spared him the pain of this dreaded disease. Of course, any reasonable adult would feel the same way....I am no different than anyone.
The point is that there has to come a time when we make our children responsible for their own actions. They need to, at some point, become functioning, responsible adults. The hard part is where to draw the line.
No one wants to see their child fall into an endless spiral of nothingness......but sometimes the worst thing we can do is bail them out over and over (this coming from the classic co-dependent).
The absolute sadness of a parent with an addicted child.
Sometimes....one must hit ABSOLUTE bottom before they can see a way out. It is painful for everyone....but the old saying "no pain, no gain" stands true here.
Parents... don't let anyone else tell you what to do....Make informed inquiries and make up your own mind...whatever your choice...This is the only way you will have peace.
Don't be bullied by your child (addicts are good at that)... and seek out professional help if you need to.
As well.......know that there are many of us in the same boat out there! Don't feel alone and reach out when you need a hand....We are here......I am here....